In honour of Mother’s Day, I wanted to ask the most important woman in my life, my mum, for the six life lessons she has learnt and wants to share with you. I hope you find them as inspiring and insightful as I did.
1. Stay positive.
There is no benefit to be gained from a negative mindset. Having a glass half full attitude works wonders and being optimistic (while also being realistic) in all situations can save you a world of stress. If nothing else it helps you cope with tricky situations. And a simple smile goes a long way.
2. Never underestimate the value of a good friend.
You don’t have to see them regularly, but make sure your true friends are a priority and you connect periodically with those who are on your wave length. There is so much value in having someone who really listens to you, empathises and provides heartfelt advice when it is needed. On the other hand, do not stress if you lose a friend for whatever reason. People come and go, friendships ebb and flow. Don’t waste your energy on one sided friendships, life is far too short. Move on and spend time with those who make you laugh, bring you joy and share your values and outlook on life.
3. Grief hurts, but don’t let it consume you.
Losing a close family member unexpectedly is not the end of the world, even if it feels like it at the time. Remember that there is always light at the end of the tunnel. They would want you to pick yourself up and get on with your life; and after honouring your grief that is exactly what you need to do for your own good.
4. You can’t please everyone, so don’t even try.
I know how tempting it is to attempt to be everything to everyone, to try and be liked. But at the end of the day I have learnt that you cannot do it all and you could be the ripest juiciest peach and someone will still not like peaches. Instead of wasting time and energy on trying to please others it is more important to put that time into yourself, your family and your partner.
5. Ageing is a process of acceptance.
The older I get the more I realise death is getting nearer. Death is a taboo but it shouldn’t be, it’s inevitable and it’s the one sure thing that we will all experience. As time has passed I can honestly say that I have come to accept it, I am not scared – I just want to die with dignity. On the subject of ageing, older friends are a valuable asset to have. One of my close friends is in her eighties and I find our conversations hugely insightful.
6. Conserve your energy.
There is absolutely nothing to be gained from shouting to losing your temper over something small or petty, such as queueing, car drivers or other matters completely out of your control. Your time and energy are two of the most valuable things you have, it is such a waste to spend them on anger or frustration over things you cannot control. You’re only going to raise your blood pressure!
Helen xx
